Monthly Archives: January 2013

Expections

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Expectations of other’s and not with oneself… 

Why is this hardest thing we tend to deal with? We have such huge expectations of others but this is not healthy!!!

I am aware that it has been some time between writing my blogs,and as I do so now I am just putting it forward as my own experience and perhaps a note that may allow you to think or even to evaluate yourself, where your going, what direction are you heading in…anyway here goes and I hope it sheds some light on your train of thought….Why am I even writing about expectations, basically it’s because we all have them, but more so we have them of others and not ourselves.I will now move on and discuss why we do this and how we let ourselves down time and time again… Expectations from others rather then oneself…what does this really mean? It basically means that we conjure up a benchmark in our heads of what we expect from others and ultimately we set ourselves up for disappointment… Don’t get me wrong there is a difference between having goals and achieving them for yourself, that is personal expectations. The other in which I am talking about is the expectations you want and expect from others… What happens when we set expectations up in our heads and require them to be delivered by others?! Then what happens when they don’t quite go to plan because you either assumed or presumed that your expectations would be met… YOU get disappointed don’t you!
I know I would and I have, and I have learnt the hard way, yes like we all do… Difference is you either learn from it and move on never to project expectations on others again or you keep going back for the same old disappointment… Why do we do this? Again it starts from our childhood, you were always expected certain things from either your parents or teachers or whoever may have been your role model or caretakers…we were taught with expectations, so therefore we bring this into our adult life….it now has become a habit or just a part of who we are and in our heads it is expected that our expectations are meet because that is what was expected of us as children… We must stop with all these expectations….the only expectation you should have is the one you have for yourself and not from others…. You can’t rely on others to make you happy or to fill that void, nor require them to fulfill whatever it is that is missing in your life…you are responsible for yourself, your most important role in life is to be happy with yourself and not expect others to do this for you…. Once you have found your happiness, you stop living in fear because you stopped expecting from others, you have learnt to be accepting and respecting of the most important person and that is YOU…. There is a difference with learning to be humble within yourself then to beat yourself up…this all takes time and patience…find that peace within you, once you have successfully obtained this you then start thinking differently and honestly with yourself….you then stop projecting your fears onto others which is your own expectations(ego based)and you learn to stop blaming others for your own disappointments… What will be will be…the universe is strong in all her power, project positive out to her and don’t be surprised when good things work out in the end….remember it’s all part of your way of thinking…:-) YOU have the choice and will always hold that power….
I know that hardest thing is to change habits, and to change habits is to change your train of thought..you hear a lot of the time that it’s all too hard, life is hard, but wait, it’s only hard because you allow it to be hard and its your own perception of what hard is, it’s the expectation in which you have created with yourself from past habits….
Is it hard to say ok here’s a new challenge and I am going to give it all I got, change of thought then creates change of attitude, you choose your attitude, attitude does not choose you.
Expect more from yourself and allow yourself to go outside the boundaries in order for you to learn that old habits can die and it’s not that hard…

Just a note that I wanted to add on top of all of this so you have a better understanding,when you start to become more humble and accepting of yourself, you then overflow with happiness which remember what I said, what you project and manifest will attract the same energy back, this is where the beautiful people in your life add to your happiness in your life and support the person that you are, its a result of not having any expectations from them in the first place that makes it all the more profound.

I will go on with the last part of this in my next blog….

 

Written by Elizabeth Pozoglou © 2010

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Letting go!

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I write this as it’s something I have been working on with myself for a while and still learning from…

The hardest thing to date is letting go of preconceived ideas, this meaning ideas that have been conditioned with you since childhood… we have our own perception of how things should be when ultimately we are setting ourselves up for failure and disappiontment… Im not the only one that does this, we all do and the only way in which we can change this way of thinking is to let it go.

A persons perception is made up with their own life experiences and this being associated with a thing called FEAR…

Fear is the single misperception that allows you to think that you are not worthy enough or not good enough… and you continue to feed this perception by thinking that it must be true, right? But how wrong is that…

We attach negative thoughts to perception of fear to our self-worth, in truth as soon as you have let go of thinking this way self-acceptance sets in creating a path of wholeness and healing… fear no longer exists because you have stopped feeding it…

What you must remember is that our thoughts are very powerful, what you fear is what you attract, like attracts like so you must choose your way of thinking and change that single misperception that you are not good enough… and rid yourself of fear… once you learn to let go you start to understand that we have a thing called the unconditioned self… what is the unconditioned self, its your highest level of thought , it remains whole, worthy and well… shift happens whenever you choose to practice your unconditional self-acceptance. Shift happens whenever you give yourself a break. Shift happens whenever you choose kindness instead of judgement, forgiveness instead of self-attack, and laughter instead of condemnation. Life always gets better when you treat yourself better. Happiness is willing to be innocent again and letting go of fear….

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Freeing your mind creates freedom within

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Can one really think about this for a moment…Go on give yourself just a moment. Freedom actually is a state of mind..

And what exactly is freedom???
Freedom really is all that the mind sets itself up to be and it’s just a state of your own being; basically it’s the way in which you are conditioned to think! This being set up and instilled in you from your parents and your caregivers. Wake up call; they aren’t always right!!!!
The point in which I am trying to make right here is that we are so caught up with so many different portraying disillusioned thoughts of what is expected of us as we were conditioned to think whilst growing up. So much so that the biggest fear is us letting go of that way of thinking and creating the necessary change that is required from us in order to break old habits to reform and rebuild our way of thinking, changing the state in which our mind thinks. Feeling the need to be free of letting go creates that freedom and alters the change within you.
We always fall victim to repeating the same mistakes, even tho we know that our natural gut instinct warns us of a wrong doing!  That we have been down this road before and the only way in which you can correct it and not fall victim again is to actually create the change, change only happens when you start breaking your own cycle and allowing the shift to take place without any reservations or fearing of what might happen as a result of the way you were once conditioned to think. 
There is no wrong or right way of doing something, only experiencing it and then taking away from that experience the wisdom gained through that experience.
Free feel to be and to be is not a question but rather an obligation to yourself and the changes you choose to make in your life to set your mind in a state of freedom and allowing yourself to explore who you really are without feeling any fear!!!

 Written by Elizabeth Pozoglou © 2009
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What goes around comes around!

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  • What you see
    Are the remnants left to be
    You made your choices alone
    Filtered through you have shown
    A lack of self
    You have felt
    An unnecessary act
    Thought you had my back

    It’s the universal laws
    Now I see your flaws
    It’s come back to haunt you
    Regret is too late to undo

    What goes around comes back around
    It’s you that it’s found
    The bad choices you’ve made
    Now cuts you like a blade
    What goes around comes around
    In your misfortune you will drown

  • So stupid for you to think
    That your choices won’t see you sink
    Do onto others
    Thought you were like no other
    You should’ve known right from wrong
    I now have these words for a song
    You cheated and you lied
    Inside me something has died
    You now live with yourself
    Inside you your left to dwell
    Cause you should know
    The universe always has her final show
    what goes around comes around
    right back around

New hope is born

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An act of kindness
A fulfilled heart
Gone through desperation
Only to find herself once naked and stark
Through the highs and lows
And sorrow did show
A light in the dark
A new hope is born, ready to start
The battles that were won and lost
Only to discover it wasn’t such a tragic loss
The onslaught has only strengthen her determined heart

 to fight on at any cost
Blacken days are now gone
A new day breaks and one does not stand alone…

A new hope is born of this I am shown

Written by
Elizabeth Pozoglou © 2012

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The beautiful people ( travel journal entry)

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Seeing that I am in an emotional state of mind I thought it a good time to take upon this opportunity to write you all a farewell…lol best I face it now and not have too many boohoo’s later on…

What I would like to express as one like myself loves and chooses to do is to put something a little different together…as you are aware I am not one to allow things to get me down nor to stay in a frame of mind that creates any negative energy…hence I will continue on in a positive manner and one that I wish will leave you feeling uplifted and gratified in the undertakings of a thing in which I like to call life…

Life…we all have this in common and you know what…it’s our gift here…it’s our moment to shine and to allow our self to experience exactly that OUR SELF….
The biggest thing that holds us back from experiencing our higher self is our own fear…we start to doubt ourselves as if we are not good enough… or not good enough to believe its true so you choose to not accept the grandest truth..but the truth is that you can be,do an have whatever you imagine…

I have written about fear in many of my writings and the second law is that you attract what you fear…Emotion is the power which attracts…whatever you manifest out to the universe is what you will ultimately get back in return…
There is NO coincidences in life…everything happens for a reason…
Your thoughts are real thoughts that only you can create…your thoughts are a pure energy, when you move energy you create effect…

Our friendships are not coincidental….we meet for reasons, valid reasons…people you attract in your life are a manifestation of your own thoughts…you attracted them in the first place, that pure energy took effect and created the foundations of what we now call a re-membering energy…like energy attracts like energy…

Why am I telling you this….it’s my truth and I am sharing it with you…

The one thing you must always remember is that LOVE is always there…
Love is the ultimate reality …it is the only one.The all. The feeling of love is your experience of the Creator or as others may call God…
In highest truth, love is all there is, all there was, and all there ever will be. When you move into the absolute, you move into love…

Don’t fear Love, or to love…
Fear will hold you back in life and that is to subtract from your own experience of your SELF…

I guess what I am trying to say here is no matter where we are or what we do, our energies and thoughts will always be there to create and to take effect…just as I will always have you in my thoughts with the love I hold for the beautiful people in my life…our life together is to create and share in each others experiences and to allow ourselves to know and understand our higher self…

My journey in which i am about to embark on will also be your experience through my thoughts and my writings as I will take you aboard with me wherever I go and the endeavours I partake in…

So go create as many wonderful experiences you could possibly do and remember that whatever you set your mind to (which is your thoughts) know that you have created them and it’s your choice to allow them to take effect…positive thinking goes a long way…it allows for your higher self to accept the grandest truth…that you are good enough and you are loved…

Elizabeth…:-)

Written by Elizabeth Pozoglou © 2009

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Oceans waves keep rolling in…

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As the Oceans waves keep rolling in
she looks across the distance
with a hope that has not fallen
she continues to stare
and the water now around her feet
she seems not to care
I wonder if the ocean waves will carry him to me tonight
Her thoughts are engulfed with only the sound of the Ocean
The moonlight casting shadows across her face
she cares not so long as the oceans waves keep rolling in
and as long as they do she holds hope
that perchance her love will come to her soon
as she stands by the edge of the shore
it’s the oceans waves that touch her core
a bird takes flight into the night
she follows it until it’s out of sight
her eyes glaze over and she taste the salt from the oceans spray
upon her face she realises it is her own tears
but as the oceans waves keep rolling in
it reminds her that she holds no fear
so long as they keep rolling in
she holds hope that her love will soon appear…

Written by Elizabeth Pozoglou © 2009

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Rising above the bullshit!

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This particular topic is a common compulsive fallback that we all can become victims to if we allow it and trust me we can all relate in one way or another…

Why do we deal in other peoples bullshit? And I say “IN” because no matter what, we are always somehow dragged into it…. We certainly didn’t ask for it in the first place but thats life and unfortunately if somebody is having a bad day or if they have unresolved issues then we/you are bound to fall victim to them….

I recently had a very good friend of mine who I loved dearly disappear from my life…I certainly didn’t want it to result in such a way , but people come into your life for a reason and if it is all just for a short brief moment in time then that’s just the way life is….
I was hurt, then my hurt turned to disappointment more then anything else, but that was their own choice and it is now my choice to rise above the bullshit and not buy into their own reactions or issues that they have with themselves..

The sad part about this all is that we give to people in the way in which perhaps it should be given back to us, but expectations is our own downfall!!!!

…but it doesn’t always work out that way….why???
I will tell you why, because it is easier for somebody to push another away when they feel that they are not worthy of goodness, they set themselves up for their own sabotage only to then later realise that what they had was real and only then wish it back into their lives…

The countless stories in which I have encountered or even experienced myself always resulted in the same way…
The person who is initially hurt of course is you, but you learn to rise above the bullshit because it’s not yours to own…

The person on the receiving end should watch what they wish for because in the end they might just get it all…and all a little too late…the fact after the cause becomes a matter of fact; you have already moved on….

Learning to rise above the bullshit is a simple terminology it’s called: “being kind to yourself!”

Elizabeth…x

Wriiten by Elizabeth Pozoglou © 2008

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To be who you want to be…it’s not a question…it’s a statement

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Ever wondered where your life is headed? Of course you have, we all have ponded on that question at some point in our lives…
It shouldn’t really be a matter of a question, it  rather just should be lived!
Perfect? What is perfect?…It’s your own perception of what you feel is perfect to you, not anybody else’s perception, only your own!
What is it to feel? To feel is something that comes from the heart and not the head…emotions that are real are felt with the body and soul….your head is a whole other ball game…

Ok so what am I really getting at here is simple, everything that you experience in your life is your own perception of what you feel and how you process it through those feelings.
Perfect is a feeling, loving is a feeling, learning is a feeling, everything that you do in life is felt, it’s the only way one can experience a thought through feeling it! Whether good or bad it is still felt….

So be who YOU want to be through your own experiences of feeling…good or bad it’s all part of life that enables you to grow with wisdom and clarity…to stop feeling is to stop living…to stop living is to stop dreaming….

Don’t ever give on on your dreams…giving up on your dreams is giving up on who you want to be….

So go be who you want to be and live your dreams…after all it was you all along that gave birth to them in the first place….your own perception….

Written by Elizabeth Pozoglou © 2007

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