Monthly Archives: August 2015

Acceptance or resistance


Accepting people for whom they are and not trying to shape them into someone their not is where a lot of relationships either fail or conquer, depending on your acceptance or resistance.
Consequently when we hold high expectations of another and OUR expectations are not met then we only have fooled ourselves into thinking that what our minds have idealistically conjured up is in fact a false illusion.
There’s certain qualities that we look for in someone, when looking too hard and being judgemental we then disappoint ourselves. Nobody is perfect, we are all here experiencing what life has on offer to us, we attract the lessons in which we are required to learn and how we choose to handle things/obstacles and challenges is based on the realisation that we can’t hold other people accountable for the way we project our feelings onto them. It’s safe to say that it’s up to us to face our own fears, our own demons and not allow the thought process of ego to take control.
If failed relationships are stacking up against you, then perhaps it’s time you looked at your past patterning and make some life changes.
Work through heart as opposed to head…
Use your wisdom but don’t allow pride to hold you back in life!

Written by
Elizabeth Pozoglou 2015 image

The difference between being scared or having doubts


e become a butterfly?’ she asked pensively, ‘You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar.’” –Trina Paulus

imageOn one hand, having doubts involves previous experience, knowledge of similar behavior and an ability to know more about a situation than others either want you to know or don’t even understand themselves. For example, in a previous relationship that I eventually ended, I began seeing red flags (or having doubts) five months prior to the relationship ending; however, I didn’t want to accept what I knew instinctually to be true, so I kept working at the relationships. It wasn’t until I saw evidence of my doubts realized that I recognized my instincts were correct, and I thankfully chose to follow what I had subconsciously been aware of all along. Much later, other further evidence reassured me that I had made the correct decision. The good news about doubts is that they are our constant warriors of protection, and it is our job to investigate what they are trying to tell us.
The key to discerning the difference between whether you are feeling doubt or fear is to know yourself fully. Only you can honestly say why you are feeling what you’re feeling. Only you can say, I want it so bad that if I don’t achieve it, I will ache incessantly. Only you can say, I don’t trust what is promised. There is a great difference between these two statements. Know yourself, and you will know how to proceed.

Are you in love or outta love?


It’s kind of ironic, I’ve been hearing far too often nowadays that more people break up because they no longer are “in love” they love the person but it’s not the same.
I personally think that’s a cop out.
Dynamics do change in any given relationship.
Your attitude is what matters in this instant!
So what makes a relationship go the distance?
Here’s my take on the topic, I’ve been in some good and not so good relationships, they have taught me a great deal, but I look to my parents as role models.
Sure they had their ups and downs, but the real challenge is when the going gets tough, when the relationship is hardest hit and this is where you either stick it out as a team or go your own separate ways.
Sure enough if a relationship is unhealthy for you then yes respect yourself first to acknowledge that it’s best to part.
But if the love is truly there and there’s a mutual respect, why then not stick it out?!
People tend to give up too easily these days, that’s were the problem lays!
It’s important to keep courting one another, keep the spark alight and remember not to loose your self identity in the relationship.
Be yourself, and keep recreating who you are. If you are in a good healthy relationship then your partner will support you no matter what, and vise versa!

I believe if you are onto a good thing, then it’s worth the fight no matter what. Communication and validation of one another does ultimately safe your relationship when the going gets tough.

Written by
Elizabeth Pozoglou