Monthly Archives: October 2018

Gut feeling verses Intuition

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They often say to listen to your gut instinct, but what exactly is that?
When you listen from your gut, it is in actual fact operating from fear.
In our mind we invoke negative thoughts to project our own inner fears that stem from past events and react to them as if our reality has somewhat become real.
And all that stirring and gut wrenching feeling we get deep down inside is linked to our fear.
If you look at the way our body is designed, our organs are connected in this way, the liver to anger, the spleen to pensiveness, the lungs to anxiety, the kidneys to fear and worry to the stomach.
All these emotions are in fact connect to the gut area, so when the saying comes to mind “trust your gut instinct” I would beg to differ.
When your intuition comes into effect it connects to your 3rd eye, your conscious awakening and an alignment to what feels real.
What feels real is very different to the gut effect you may have. The gut is activated because of all the above reasons I have mentioned, whereas your intuitive feelings hold merit because you feel with all certainty, and seeing with clarity what is real, your reality.
The third eye (the inner eye) is a mystical and esoteric concept referring to eye which provides perception beyond ordinary sight.
Intuitive people commonly have very good empathetic abilities, meaning they can sense what others are thinking and feeling. Their minds are highly attuned to the vibrational frequencies given off by those around them and they use this information to further refine the way they act in a situation.
When working through situations in your life, it’s optimal to still your mind and work through the heart chakra. Only in stillness will you be able to find your truth, your clarity and your intuitive feeling, through breath you calm your responses and no longer react out of fear.

Written by
Elizabeth Pozoglou

Live in the moment

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What’s it like to live in the moment ?
To be free of your thoughts, a gift of bestowment
To no longer be in a past that haunts you
We tend to latch onto our fears, but if only we knew
That if we were to let go and be in the here and now
We can conquer our demons and get through it somehow
The jumbled stories we tell ourselves are only in our heads
We take our troubles with us as we lay in our beds
How can it be that we allow this to consume our lives
If only we find the strength within to overcome these lies
To be in the moment is learning to understand that we are not the product of a past that shaped us
It’s all in our will, and that we must trust
On this trail of life, we awaken to anew and let go of the old
We can’t buy into the stories that we were once told
How life can we a better sweet careless endeavour
A happiness resides when your in the moment of today’s treasure
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Written by Elizabeth Pozoglou

Friendship

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C9BDDB2B-9607-441C-BAB7-F084F51575D6.jpegThey say keep your circle tight
Keep those that are worth it within your sight
Trust the few that have your back
They will never allow your bonded friendship to ever slack
They hold you up when you’re at life’s lowest point
Knowing that the support you have will not ever disappoint
In the good times, they share in your joys and laughter
Their hope for you is a happily ever after
When you’re faced with your own down and out’s
Fear not for they will unclear all of your doubts
A love of friendship that has unified in strength
They will be there till the very end
On your side they will defend
When you come across people like this in your life
Be sure to hold them close, right there by your side
Written by
Elizabeth Pozoglou 2018

Hurt people Hurt people

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345B1516-6F90-4619-8755-20580F579C91I keep reminding myself this. It’s a hard lesson, wrought with frustration because when people hurt us our first instinct is fuck-you-to-the-moon and back type anger. Get off my lawn with your projections and pure potent BS.

When there are people in our lives that don’t want to stop blaming us for their pains. When they seem to not care a whisper about how hard we tried to offer loving kindness. When there’s nothing left for us to do except to let them go and face the backlash of fury and spite. We’ve all been there, and not reacting and taking offense is undeniably fucking hard. Especially when you really did do your best, but your best will never be good enough.

Unleashing anger on to others only causes more pain for ourselves in the end. Everywhere we look people are offended. Post an alternative article on a popular outlet and witness the personal outcries of the offended. We take the projections of others as if they are a direct attack on us, even more so when it’s someone we know well that’s acting maliciously.

It takes strength and courage to take a step back and remind ourselves: Other people’s reactions are not about us, they are about them.

Our reactions stem from past experiences that lead us to assumptions that we firmly believe as truth.

Bottom line: They might not be truth. They may just be preconceived notions projected onto others in order to protect one’s ego.

The most hurt and traumatized among us will do anything to protect what little self-respect is left. This is how reality becomes contorted. The looking glass morphs into something more like one of those funky mirrors they have in haunted clown houses at the carnival.

People will believe whatever version of reality serves their belief system. If the hurt person’s partner leaves because they were abusive and but they don’t want to face that, they’ll make up a story that they left because they were in love with someone else and cheating on them the whole time. They’ll repeat their version of reality to themselves as many times as is needed to believe it wholeheartedly.

Bottom line: The go-to coping mechanism hurt people embody is to rationalize their reactions by creating stories that make those actions seem A-OK.
What weakens us is feeling offended by the deeds and misdeeds of our fellow men. Our self-importance requires that we spend most of our lives offended by someone.

When you’re on the receiving end of this type of rhetoric your sanity depends on not taking offense. Taking offense is pointless. People unconsciously cast projections of their own self-loathing on to others as a sort of survival mechanism.

If I hold up a mirror every time I shun another person or cast blame, I can clearly see that who I’m really angry at is myself.

If we’re at peace with ourselves, we don’t feel the need to spew venomous emotions on to those around us. But if the opposite is occurring and we’re experiencing constant inner turmoil and self-doubt then it makes sense that we want to feel less alone in our suffering. And so we cause others to suffer. Because nobody wants to be alone at the proverbial pity party.

Drama is highly addictive. It causes a surge of extremely intense hormones to slurp our rational logic through its big ass straw of reaction. It’s easier to react than it is to respond. We cannot respond from a place of logic let alone compassion when cortisol is surging through our bodies and our hearts are closed up in a self-imposed prison cell. We will not find forgiveness from marinating in our hot bath of angry memories and offenses done to us.

Peace only comes when we’re able to get quiet and remember that the pains inflicted upon us weren’t a result of us necessarily. They were a reaction from another person who wasn’t able to respond, and in turn reacted, however their gnarly and deluded reptilian brain saw fit.

Each of us has lived a unique life. We’ve endured our own sets of struggles and successes. Some of us have had life-long stability, and for others walking the path of life has always been wobbly and close to the edge. What we don’t know is the depth of connotations that each person has with different experiences. Tip toeing around another person’s edges out of fear of how they’ll react is no way to live life. Allowing our own ego to get tripped the fuck out when someone projects their word vomit onto us is hard not to do. It’s an ongoing practice of releasing other people’s shit and owning our own.

We all have these invisible wounds and we’ll do anything to avoid them being touched. We’ll run as fast as we can from the negative emotions we encounter in ourselves. Dare someone else accidentally touch our wounds, we act as if they caused them. But, they didn’t cause them, and they cannot heal them.

We’ll project as much of it onto others as we possibly can before realizing that they are our wounds and we have the power to heal them. Others can only help us to bring up what we haven’t healed in ourselves.

When we look at it from this perspective, how can there still be blame and fury cast towards those that bring up our shadows? Instead, we could replace our resentment with compassion for ourselves and those who hurt us. Because they are hurt, and unconsciously trying to get others to strengthen their paradigm of pain is the opposite direction of turning towards the path of healing and growth.

I know it’s fucking hard. Reacting is a million times easier than responding. When we feel attacked, it’s instinctual to put our backs up against the wall. But it’s not a long-term strategy for coping with hurt. We need to look at the bigger picture and when we do empathy can exist. Until then, the hurt just spreads like wildfire with a big old bucket of compassion waiting within us to put that fire out.