She’s an advocate for what’s morally right

She won’t back down without a fight
Through her experiences her character is forged
Lighting the way for others with her torch
A protector for the wounded hearts
She’s a warrior and with you she will march
This gypsy woman has your best interest in sight
Guiding the way even when day seems like night
Don’t allow the wicked ways of the world blind you
Be on guard for those that try to fool you and trust only few
A woman should always have another woman’s back
To help those in need so that they don’t become sidetracked
This woman who has come to be
This woman I look at is a reflection of me

Written by
Elizabeth Pozoglou

When I look back I can clearly see now all the red flags, all the telltale signs and the warnings from family and friends.
Yet I had chosen to overlook them, blindsided to the fact that I always tried to see the good in someone, give them the benefit of a doubt and looking for the potential they could possibly emanate.
But in reality I was dealing with a narcissist. And the only way to win with a narcissist is to not play at all. Game over!
I played it for far longer then I anticipated, 2 1/2 years of my time and energy wasted but then again in retrospect I can look back and think one day I’ll write a book about this, possibly a song or even do talks and educate others, forewarn them of the potential dangers of ever getting involved with a narcissist. Life’s lessons huh! Just stepping stones in the grand sceme of things … reminding myself here that it’s not about the destination but rather the journey along the way.

So not entirely wasted after all …

These last few weeks have had me researching so much information about the narcissist, how they operate, their mindset, their disorder, the complexity of how they view us as objects rather then people. I needed to understand it, how it came to this point and why.  My mind needed to comprehend and process everything in order for me to completely understand that none of this was my fault and I don’t hold myself accountable for somebody else’s actions.

The sad thing is that I feel sorry in part because as a narcissist they will never know how to love or to receive love. They will always remain empty souls, seeking the validation of others to feed their ego. It’s a drug to them, an energy supply they go in search for.

Yes I should be angry and yes it would be easy to condemn him for his actions, for the manipulation and the mind games of trying to control somebody’s life just for their own gratification.
But above that I should be even more angry and hold contempt towards him for laying his hands on me because nobody has the right to touch another let alone inflict harm unto them. Anger is a too harsher word for me… Because holding onto anger only punishes myself. As the saying goes  “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”
Budha

So I choose to let go …

This isn’t about you anymore, this is about me starting my healing journey to recovery. You’re not the centre of my universe as you would like to think you are, you’re merely just a life lesson and one I have learnt a great deal from. So thank you. Thank you for teaching me valuable lessons in my life, to not trust so easily with words if it’s not backed with actions and thank you for teaching me that ones trust needs to be earnt over time rather then be given freely all at once.

I will never get an apology from you, you don’t even know what remorse means let alone empathy. But that’s ok because I wouldn’t believe the words that would utter out of your mouth anyway.

I choose to forgive, I forgive the part of me that allowed you in and I forgive so that I can continue walking forth with conviction in my step and courage within my wake, with truth as my witness and honesty surging through my veins. This is teaching me a great deal about myself, the strength I hold and the integrity I now walk in.

I care not of what the people think of me right now, the flying monkeys, because I’ve always said that somewhere down the line the truth always surfaces.
The thing is that the sheeple people of today are so easily mislead. I was fooled, they too will be fooled. That ones easy enough to guess.
BUT…
I’m not dictated by the thoughts and the judgements of those that don’t matter to me because those that do matter to me know me for who I am and will always have my back, they know the truth.

Ultimately in the end one can’t hide or run from the truth.  That’s a universal law, another word for god, or however way your faith works.

karmic lessons in motion …

So now I say game over, it’s finished and I win!
Your love game didn’t work on me.

The Magic of Loving Yourself First
What happens when we actually start practicing self-love, instead of just talking about it?

In a world where we’ve been raised to put others first, self-love can often feel selfish. Setting aside time for self-love causes feelings of guilt, and we struggle to maintain a dedicated self-love practice. It’s frustrating. We know we need self-love, yet we have difficulty giving ourselves permission to experience it. Ironic, isn’t it?
We’re living in an era where the self-love revolution is gaining momentum, yet we have trouble doing the work; it goes against everything we were raised to believe. We were never taught self-love in school, and most of us didn’t learn about self-love in our homes.
So what did we learn?
We learned to put others first. We learned the importance of success. We learned to work hard and make money. But we didn’t learn how to keep ourselves feeling fueled for that journey.
Self-love is our fuel; it’s the foundation for who we are. Everything builds on top of this foundation, and if it isn’t solid, life feels shaky. For those of us who have experienced the power of self-love, we can agree that the effects can often feel quite magical. The moment we start loving ourselves, we experience shifts—positive shifts. Life begins to move forward with more ease and things begin to magically fall into place. Relationships improve. Health improves. And life begins to feel good—really good—ridiculously good.
Loving you first and creating that deep, internal relationship has countless magical benefits. When you begin your love affair with yourself, you will…
Recognize + Prioritize Your Needs
In order to create that loving relationship with yourself, you’ll have to recognize your needs. Without self-love, you are dismissive of your needs; you ignore them, while prioritizing the needs of others such as your partners, friends, family, and coworkers. Self-love is all about identifying your needs and making them a priority in your life. It’s about doing what truly feels right for you.
Gain a True Sense of Self
Say goodbye to codependency. Self-love pushes you to take care of your own needs. You’ll learn to give to yourself, and in doing so, you will develop into the person you strive to be. You’ll celebrate the beauty and freedom of being true to you, and you’ll gain a solidified sense of who you truly are. Self-love helps you ground into your true self.
Set Loving Boundaries
As your self-love expands, so will your ability to identify what is and isn’t good for you. Simply put, the more you love yourself, the less you’ll tolerate being treated like crap. You’ll gain the clarity you need to understand what you will and will not accept in your life.
Prevent Self-Sabotage
You know when everything is finally going great, and then all of a sudden you sabotage that great feeling by doing something destructive? Self-love makes that saboteur behavior go away. As we grow that love within you, it will become easier to accept good things in your life.
Drop the Victim Mentality
Self-love is all about taking ownership; owning up to your actions, and how you choose to show up in this world. The only reason you adopt a victim mentality is because you refuse to see the role you play in your experiences. When you begin to prioritize self-love, you start to view your experiences differently. It’s all about learning lessons, not denying them. Ownership is empowering.
Give Love Without Feeling Depleted
Flight attendants always tell you to put your masks on before helping others with theirs. Why? Because you can’t help others if you can’t breathe. Self-love works the same way. You cannot give love to others if you don’t have that love within. You may feel as though you have the ability to love, but what’s really happening is you’re giving love from an empty space, further draining your energy and emptying your tank. This leads to that sense of depletion, emptiness, and exhaustion after you feel yourself giving, giving, and giving to someone. However, when you remember to put your mask on first and stock up on self-love, you’ll be giving love from a full tank. This type of giving feels energizing and good.
Find Your Own Happy
Stop seeking happiness outside of you. You won’t find it. You may find temporary happy moments, but you won’t find long-lasting happiness. Self-love helps you get your groove back. It’s simple, really. The more love you show yourself, the better you feel. And the better you feel, the happier you become. You are in charge of your happiness, and self-love is the key to finding it.
Self-love is not selfish. Self-love is about connecting to your innermost needs, celebrating the freedom of being you, and honoring who you truly are while dropping your destructive patterns. Loving yourself is magical—it’s a divine relationship that will help you radically improve every single aspect of your life. So go on, drop the guilt, and embrace having a deep, loving relationship with you!

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He will charm his way into your life
Proclaiming his love, babies,marriage but they are all lies

He will paint you a picture of all the women in his life to be crazed
Even to the point in convincing you that he’s still being chased

He won’t have just one lover at a time
You can guarantee he’s got more, like four or five

Sweetheart don’t think you are his special one
You’re just his next victim and to him it’s all just fun

You’ll hear of the story that the first one betrayed him and left him out to dry
The ones that came after her we’re crazy and without him they would die

But wait there’s more in this tale that’s flawed
Oh how the charmer likes yo charm but really he is a fraud

The ghosting,
The gaslighting
And the stringing along ultimately steals the show
Oh how he uses his words well, and oh how they flow

He’ll invite you into his home
Plays happy families and there you are shown

That his tangle of lies start to work around your fragile heart
He knows the game well, with this he is smart

Beware that you don’t catch him out in a lie
The mask he wears is cunning and ever so sly

If you unravel his web or try to escape
He’ll be back again playing the role of innocence

But believe me when I tell you it is all fake
Look out for number one for heavens sakes

He’ll take what he can get then discard you without care
But don’t blame yourself cause he was never one to play fair

He’s the narcissist who preys on his victims vulnerability
But justice will be served and he will need to take accountability.

Written by Elizabeth Pozoglou

Sometimes you think you know somebody until they show you the monster they really are. It’s unjust to think that it’s ok in a relationship that cheating and lying will be tolerated, it’s unjust to think that abuse is ok because you got caught out. It’s not ok , period!!!

Nobody should ever endure the physical force of another’s hands to cause bodily harm to your own body.
Wasn’t it enough that the lies and cheating caused me enough emotional pain but your hands told yet another story as I’m still healing from the aftermath of your abuse.

I’ve just become a victim of domestic violence, and that isn’t ok.

What is ok  although is to speak out about my ordeal because what I deem morally right is justice. Justice for what you have put me through as the narcissists that you are.

Somehow I will get through this, it may be an upward battle, I may have to face the trauma you have just put me through and the trust that you have stripped away from me is going to take a lifetime to heal. I maybe bruised and broken but above that I’m a saviour. #saynotodomesticviolence