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A woman’s moral rights

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E26FADD0-8EF1-4EF7-95FE-DFEA08FC424BSometimes you think you know somebody until they show you the monster they really are. It’s unjust to think that it’s ok in a relationship that cheating and lying will be tolerated, it’s unjust to think that abuse is ok because you got caught out. It’s not ok , period!!!

Nobody should ever endure the physical force of another’s hands to cause bodily harm to your own body.
Wasn’t it enough that the lies and cheating caused me enough emotional pain but your hands told yet another story as I’m still healing from the aftermath of your abuse.

I’ve just become a victim of domestic violence, and that isn’t ok.

What is ok  although is to speak out about my ordeal because what I deem morally right is justice. Justice for what you have put me through as the narcissists that you are.

Somehow I will get through this, it may be an upward battle, I may have to face the trauma you have just put me through and the trust that you have stripped away from me is going to take a lifetime to heal. I maybe bruised and broken but above that I’m a saviour. #saynotodomesticviolence

Solving the riddle of the Elephant

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I have recently spoken about addressing the elephant in the room in my last blog and trying to solve what I feel has become an epidemic. On a daily basis, everywhere that I seem to be or look I am affected by more and more people dealing with depression, anxiety or some form of mental illness. Perhaps I’m just so in tune with peoples emotions that I am picking up on their energy and with this it has brought me to the frontline and confronting it head on. Im by no means a saviour, nor am I one to recuse another, but I do believe that part of my life’s journey is to mirror back what lies within another person and making them aware of what may lay dormant. Those unresolved thoughts, feelings and emotions that keep resurfacing but are yet to find a resolution or even coming to peace with their own demons.

There’s so many close to me right now that are battling with their own demons, demons that are all in their mind and the mind has a funny way of taking control of your life and your emotions. Ultimately if you don’t learn to control the mind the result ends up being that the emotions run the show.

The problem then lies that we loose the battle and allow it to become king, the battle then goes to another level and you find yourself in a dark place where you keep feeding those thoughts and then those emotions grow larger than life.

Im about to embark on this topic and dive a little deeper with it, because the question you need to be asking yourself is why this is occurring more and more so now, where exactly are its original roots and why are so many suffering as a result?

I truly believe that we are all here to help one another in some way, shape or form. That our existence has been so far removed from our true purpose and that in order to find a solution we really need to come back to perception of truth.

Perception is your reality, and another person has their own perception of their reality which is their truth. How we see things, how we experience them and how we perceive them creates our world. When we remain open minded this then allows us to see from another persons point of view or simply put their perception and this is where we can learn from one another.

Im using this as an example because it relates back to your childhood and how our reality was created based on our experiences, our environment, our upbringing. With this comes our freewill which in other words is our choices in life. Choice comes down to thought process and how we have conditioned our minds to think, feel and act/react. Our past experiences whether they be bad or good sets us up for how we make future choices.

In order to know bad from good, you first need to experience what bad and good are to you. Your perception plays its role now and the reality is set. Lets just say that you have experienced something bad in your life and that conjured up an emotion within you, you then hold that experience as a red flag, that red flag then becomes your reality, so later on in life if an experience that resembles that red flag resurfaces again then your perception believes its reliving it all over again. Choice then comes into play, do you act or react? Then lesson says to you, ‘How are you going to play this one out”?

On the flip side, you’ve experienced something good in your life and the beauty with this is that with bad comes good because one cannot live without the other.  You can’t create your reality without experiencing both ends of the spectrum, and with these opposing occurrences in life one learns to know everything from that being emotions, feelings and experiences is in fact relevant to each other.

This vicious circle will keep recurring because the lesson is still yet to be learnt. When we break that cycle and change our perception thats when our mind shifts. Welcome to life!

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The elephant in the room with the riddle now has a choice of whether it wants to be solved!

part 3 will continue in my next blog.

Written by

Elizabeth Pozoglou

 

Addressing the elephant in the room

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Part 1: Addressing the Elephant in the room.

This topic has been at the forefront of my life lately. Depression. It’s real and it’s raw.
I want to talk openly about it because it’s affecting many people that are extremely close to me and I feel compelled to address the elephant in the room.
There will come a time where one will experience a very low state of mind in their lives, the thing is that it is a part of us whether we want it to be or not.
Depression stems from many factors throughout our lives and to better understand it we must accept that its real. Recognising it is the first step to heal from it and learning to manage it when it arises allows us to rise above it.
As I said it stems from many factors, but from the most part it comes from childhood, what we were lead to believe and how we were conditioned to think, how we were raised and the environment we grew up in.
It also could stem from genetics that has been passed down from generation to generation.
Being exposed to drugs and alcohol or making poor life choices. All of these factors are concluded to the source of what contributes to depression.

The problem that lays dormant is that people are either too afraid to admit that they suffer in some form or another or too embarrassed to talk about it.
As the saying goes, it takes courage to change peoples hearts.
I use this saying because we are so closed off to those that are important to us. We don’t want to let them down or be a burden, so instead we choose to close our hearts.
What people lack is communication, expression and openness and a sense of feeling safe. Why? Because it would mean that they would first have to let down their guard and become vulnerable.
If only we were a little bit braver and to start to strip back our layers and begin the healing process. To then be the first in this generation to allow for the next generations to come to be more vulnerable to a cause that affects each and everyone of us.
It does take courage but with that courage comes change and with that change comes an impeccable strength from within.

Starting the conversation about the realities of mental health is good – continuing it, is vital. Let’s talk about the elephant in room! Together, let’s breakdown the stigma surrounding mental health.

Part 2 to follow …

Written by Elizabeth Pozoglou

When the door closes

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When a strong woman says goodbye, there is no turning back.

Strong women aren’t like ordinary women. They’re in a whole different league.

They’re tougher than the rest of us. They’re wiser. They’re more likely to stick to their principles. They don’t put up with sh*t from anyone, but especially from guys that want to ty and mess them around.

They don’t find their whole worlds caving in when it’s time to walk away from a relationship. They cry, but they don’t beat themselves up. They might fall down, but they always get back up again.

Strong women don’t take men back once they’ve said it’s over. When they’ve made a decision that they decide is best for them, they stick to it. They know that they’ll be happier in the long run. They have the strength of will and determination not to fold and fall back into their ex’s arms at the first sign that they want them back.

A strong woman takes responsibility for her actions. She won’t be shy to blame you for whatever is your fault, but she’ll hold her hands up and admit her own mistakes. She won’t beg you to stay. She won’t even ask you. If you don’t want to be with her, it’s your loss – and she knows that all too well.

She’ll encourage you to leave if she thinks it’s the best thing for either of you. She knows that sometimes things have to get worse before they can get better. She knows that sometimes breakups are for the best. She understands that everyone deserves to feel happy and fulfilled, so if you decide you want to leave she’ll accept it.

She knows that life goes on. She knows that she deserves someone who wants her, someone who sees the value in her. She knows that she deserves someone who wants her as much as she wants them.

A strong woman understands that the right people will stay in her life, and the others are there to learn lessons from and then go separate ways. She’ll mourn her losses while she has to, and then put on her game face and get back into life with the same zest she’s always had for it.

Every setback she faces inspires her to push forward and achieve her goals. She knows that everything that doesn’t kill her only makes her stronger.

That’s why she picks herself up, dusts herself off, and carries on, no matter what she goes through in life.

When she’s facing the end of a relationship, she doesn’t dwell on what could have been. When she decides to turn around and leave, there’s no coming back. She’s made her decision.

Because when it’s over for a strong woman, it’s over.

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Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.

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“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.”

This famous saying from John Lennon reflects a paradox in our lives. Many of us would like to have a peaceful ride, enjoy the present moment, yet we can’t help but make future plans so we feel secure, or we spend time digging on past hurts. Lennon doesn’t say we shouldn’t make plans, but that the true experience of being alive is beyond those plans, and “happens” to us.
At first view, this seems to negate any personal will, since the right answer to life would be to embrace it instead of trying to direct it, but it might just be that free will should be redirected from the content of our lives to its approach: Instead of using our free will to decide what should come next, we’d use it to choose between ego or letting go, between a life ruled by our mind or a life in tune with a higher intelligence. For most people, this higher intelligence only seems to manifest when their life flows: important meetings happen, synchronicities lead to a new path and something mysterious seems to be pulling the strings. The willingness to not resist whatever life is putting on the road determines how long the ride will last. Then, one day, the ego-mind takes back its throne, doubt arises and the magical path vanishes. Guidance seems no longer there.

To stay on the path we must trust, live in the present, and let go of fear. In other words, behaviors we have not been taught growing up, so deconditioning is necessary. Learned behaviors are often a source of false security and self-limitation. Unfortunately, any mind work on deconditioning will only take us so far: “you cannot remove a thorn with a thorn” as the Buddhists say. The ego-mind will always fight its way to the director seat, reverting to its lower patterns as soon as it is threaten by change. To get rid of the ego is impossible, to put it as a servant of this higher intelligence is the answer.

Trust is the first step: Faith is beyond the ego-mind. By trusting something unknown, limitless and wise, you jump over the illusory self-limitations of the mind, hence opening the door to higher guidance and purpose. The place you create from is no longer the result of years of self-definition but the unlimited potential this higher intelligence has in reserve for you. So co-creation happens at a different level: not the level where your thoughts create your reality but the level where your alignment with the higher intelligence of your life allows you to receive its energy. What you manifest then is no longer the fruit of an illusion, the product of something as fleeting as the mind. You manifest from the higher intent behind your life. True purpose lies outside of the ego-mind’s grasp.

Living in the present is a necessary condition for this higher intelligence to manifest. Calling on past experiences to evaluate something only brings more mind in and ego tries to direct the game again. Wondering about the future makes us want to control it. To live in the present means to not resist life’s experiences, even the painful ones. The wisdom behind most spiritual practices is to see pain as a teacher of letting go. Whether it is the pain of sitting in meditation, of constant thinking or of emotional upheaval, the realization that these pains disappear in an awakened state of consciousness is a perfect training ground for daily life.

As we develop this simple awareness of the present moment and the willingness to experience life without the veil of mind, our fears evaporate. We go from the realm of ego to the realm of being, we surrender to the music and we become the dance. Life happens!0CEAE396-7EEB-4F61-AE84-E4DEB9C23A93.png

 

Gypsy Wondering soul

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She began to understand that attachment no longer served her
Letting go of all her prior beliefs, they now have become a blur
Her perception shifting through the folds of life itself
Allowing a new way to be,she was truly compelled
A gypsy wondering soul, her spirit being free to explore
Searching for her truth and being left to wonder even more
She is a protector of what is just and that which she believes to be right
The owl explores for wisdom deep into the night
It whispers in her ear the tales of ancient times
When the sun and the moon have become aligned
She no longer has a need to run from all that engulfs her mind
Facing them with her bravery, from within her it’s the strength she finds
Creating a world that she does not feel the need to reject
Instead she finds solace as her soul inwardly reflects
Learning that life is a gift, a blessing, a moment in the presence
Giving love freely to those worthy, even after their evanescence
Learning that ones reaction towards her is a reflection of themselves
Only they can take ownership of their behaviour in order to excel
She loves fiercely with an integrity to call her own
Through her experiences of loving one she is shown
When the going gets tough and you feel like you’re stuck
See it through with devotion because life isn’t built on luck
As her journey takes the unbeaten track
This gypsy soul has no need to look back…

Written by Elizabeth Pozoglou
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You’re not everybody’s cup of tea, but that’s ok

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I read a really nice piece on “you’re not everyone’s cup of tea”. We all love being liked, adored, needed, and loved. And then there will suddenly come along an individual, who will simply not like you. And no matter what you do to convince them that you are wonderful and have value, they will simply not like you. what you need to recognise is that you are wonderful and if they can’t see it, it’s their loss, not yours.
It’s their problem that something limits them from accessing and acknowledging the good in you. However, the problem is that you want to be liked by everyone, and now, that becomes your problem, not theirs. Instead of investing time, energy and effort into those that do love you, you focus more on being liked by those that don’t.
The quote says, “Don’t waste your finite time and heart trying to convince those who will simply not like you that you have value. They will miss it completely. They won’t buy what you are selling. Don’t try to convince them to walk your path with you, because you will only waste your time and your emotional good health. You are not for them and they are not for you. You are not their cup of tea, and they are not yours. Politely wave them along and move away as well. Seek to share your path with those who recognise and appreciate your gifts, who you are!!! Be who you are. You are not everyone’s cup of tea, and that’s Ok!!!”.
There are many of you live with in-laws, want to be liked by them and get frustrated that no matter how hard you try, they just don’t. If you’re a good person, who is sensitive, respectful and kind, that’s all that matters. If they can’t recognise, appreciate and value that, is it your problem or theirs?
Their non-recognition will upset you, irritate you and then you will in turn, in some manner, show your hurt, which puts them on the defensive, and then friction is created. So, it’s a self-defeating exercise to “try” beyond a point. Appreciate the good in them, and let them know you like them.
Simply be likeable and so wonderful that they will gravitate to the warmth and positivity. Don’t let the desire to be important, loved and liked control you. Just be you, wonderful you! that’s all that really matters.

Beacon of light

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Don’t ever compromise who you are to bend to another’s rules
At the end of the day you’re the one who’s been taken for a fool
When people’s opinion start to cloud your mind
It’s time to let go because inside you you’ll find
A loveliness about you that is raw and true
You learn to disregard those thoughts that tried to disguise themselves like a hue
If lies have been told and a story put out to be sold
Trust your intuition, it will never leave you out in the cold
If someone offends and tries to belittle you
Just know that their stupidity really doesn’t have a clue
Stand strong with your virtue even if they try to bring you down
It’s Athena rising within you that will hold you steady on the ground
As long as you grasp onto your beliefs
You will leave no room for vultures or the thief’s
You know who you are, never loose sight
Be a beacon for them and a casting light

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Gut feeling verses Intuition

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They often say to listen to your gut instinct, but what exactly is that?
When you listen from your gut, it is in actual fact operating from fear.
In our mind we invoke negative thoughts to project our own inner fears that stem from past events and react to them as if our reality has somewhat become real.
And all that stirring and gut wrenching feeling we get deep down inside is linked to our fear.
If you look at the way our body is designed, our organs are connected in this way, the liver to anger, the spleen to pensiveness, the lungs to anxiety, the kidneys to fear and worry to the stomach.
All these emotions are in fact connect to the gut area, so when the saying comes to mind “trust your gut instinct” I would beg to differ.
When your intuition comes into effect it connects to your 3rd eye, your conscious awakening and an alignment to what feels real.
What feels real is very different to the gut effect you may have. The gut is activated because of all the above reasons I have mentioned, whereas your intuitive feelings hold merit because you feel with all certainty, and seeing with clarity what is real, your reality.
The third eye (the inner eye) is a mystical and esoteric concept referring to eye which provides perception beyond ordinary sight.
Intuitive people commonly have very good empathetic abilities, meaning they can sense what others are thinking and feeling. Their minds are highly attuned to the vibrational frequencies given off by those around them and they use this information to further refine the way they act in a situation.
When working through situations in your life, it’s optimal to still your mind and work through the heart chakra. Only in stillness will you be able to find your truth, your clarity and your intuitive feeling, through breath you calm your responses and no longer react out of fear.

Written by
Elizabeth Pozoglou

Live in the moment

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What’s it like to live in the moment ?
To be free of your thoughts, a gift of bestowment
To no longer be in a past that haunts you
We tend to latch onto our fears, but if only we knew
That if we were to let go and be in the here and now
We can conquer our demons and get through it somehow
The jumbled stories we tell ourselves are only in our heads
We take our troubles with us as we lay in our beds
How can it be that we allow this to consume our lives
If only we find the strength within to overcome these lies
To be in the moment is learning to understand that we are not the product of a past that shaped us
It’s all in our will, and that we must trust
On this trail of life, we awaken to anew and let go of the old
We can’t buy into the stories that we were once told
How life can we a better sweet careless endeavour
A happiness resides when your in the moment of today’s treasure
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Written by Elizabeth Pozoglou